Eliminate Negativity with Martial Arts
Eliminate Negativity with Martial Arts
When people think of martial arts, as it relates to kids, they immediately think of respect, confidence, and discipline. But when people think of martial arts for adults they tend to think more along the lines of the physical, e.g. getting in great shape or learning self-defense.
All of the above would be correct assumptions to make about martial arts training for kids and adults; however, many if not ALL those benefits crossover to the other group which leads to a “cure” of some problem that needs “fixing”.
One of the biggest benefits that greatly impact a student’s life, no matter the age, is the positivity that flows into your life from the dedication and discipline of training. Not to get all “woo woo” on your but negativity can and does cause mental suffering in everyone.
Sometimes I feel adults suffer from this the most and we are the ones who should know better but we are our own biggest enemies and become victims of our own self-sabotage.
This leads me to one of my favorite books and one many of my students have heard me talk about many times. The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz.
Be Impeccable with Your Words
Of the four agreements, it was the very first one that had a huge impact on me and lays the foundation for the rest of the book. For today though, we’ll only be discussing the first agreement which states, “Be impeccable with your words”.
First, let’s define the word impeccable which means “without sin”. So in other words, use your words without sin. What exactly does that even mean? It means to not use your words in such a way that could be destructive to someone. The old cliche, “if you don’t have anything nice to say then don’t say anything” comes to mind.
This is a lesson that not only kids can use but so could adults. How many times have you been in a conversation with an adult and they want nothing but to bad mouth or gossip about someone? I would encourage you not to partake in that kind of conversation as it has a way of laying a foundation of negativity that you should keep out of your mind and definitely away from your tongue.
Speak Positively About Yourself
This first agreement though also is meant for how you use words about yourself. Have you ever told yourself, “I’m not good enough”, “I don’t think I can do that”, etc? That’s what we call negative self-talk. So the rule still applies.
Don’t use your words in a sinful way towards yourself. As I mentioned at the beginning, we are oftentimes our own worst enemies and if we keep telling ourselves the same negative lie over and over again then you will start to believe it. This is a habit that can be devastating and will lead you to nowhere very quickly.
Develop Self-Concept Through Martial Arts Training
Now, here’s the cool part. That first agreement in the book and martial arts fit perfectly together. One of the biggest benefits of training is the development of self-concept. You may be asking, “what is self-concept?”. Self-concept is a general term used to refer to how someone thinks about, evaluates, or perceives themselves. To be aware of oneself is to have a concept of oneself.
When people come to us for themselves or their child often times this is the area that is lacking most and needs the most help. As you (or your child) accomplish small goals and overcome frequent challenges in the dojo your perception of yourself improves. You start thinking of yourself in a more positive and powerful way. Thus, impacting your self-concept which leads to increased confidence and self-esteem. All of which is great for both adults and kids. So you can see how martial arts training will lead to use successfully applying the first agreement to our lives.
The Power of Your Words
You see, words are powerful. They have the power to create and destroy. If you use your words in a positive way towards yourself and others then you will have an incredible impact. For example, if you say to someone, “Hey, I’m so happy I got to see you today.”. Imagine how that would make them feel. Imagine for a moment that they were having the worst day of their life (which you were unaware of) and then you come in and say that…WOW! You can really brighten their day.
Now, imagine if you said something hurtful or rude and they were still having the worst day of their life. Imagine the great negative impact that could have on a person. If they were already feeling worthless then you just validated all their negative thoughts.
The results could be unimaginably devastating.
In conclusion, use your words to build and create the positive and beauty you want to see in the world.
Martial arts training can be the vehicle in which you can greatly improve how you see yourself or how your child sees themselves. It’s powerful, it’s amazing, and it’s so much fun.
Come join us!